~ ASAL (Ang Sa Akin Lang)

"What's your secret?"

Yan ang laging tanong kasunod ng salitang,

"Antagal niyo na..."

Sa totoo lang, walang namang espesyal kaming ginagawa para umabot kami ng ganito ka tagal. Hindi din pwedeng sabihing may librong sinusundan para tumagal ang relasyon. Una sa lahat, hindi kami pagkain para may susunding recipe, at lalong hindi kami parang "internet package" na may "quick install kit manual."

Pero kung may ma-isasagot ako sa tanong, hindi ito tip o sekreto, ito'y sariling pananaw, sariling opinyon at pagkakaintindihan ng dalawang tao. Most of my friends find my beliefs, position and treatment with the relationship weird, but if it's what works then why not... I am not saying that this is also applicable to some, kasi sabi nga ng mga nagmamarunong sa libro, "To each is own!"

~ We never impose rules.

We live by respect for oneself.

We're old enough to know what is right or otherwise. Kung may gagawin mang masama, hindi ito kabawasan ng pagkatao ng isa kundi kabawasan ng pagkatao mo mismo. Sa'yo guguhit ang mga pinag-gagawa mo, hindi kailanman sa akin. If you respect yourself, you give respect to others too.. you give respect to the relationship.

~ Understand the life, lifestyle and the world you're both into.

We are not in any way a "man-woman relationship," so why pattern your relationship to it. Understand what is expected given that you're in a world (Gay World) where everything is run by, to name a few, superficial, judgmental and very competitive individual (no pun intended). Not to mention a very small world it is... si ano kilala ni ano, na naging ex ni ano, na friend ko, na naka sex ni ano na officemate ko, na naging fubu ni ano nung last year! At kung anu-ano pang koneksiyon na pwedeng maisip. Ibig sabihin, hindi dahil ansa relasyon kayong dalawa, e safe ka... minsan may mga taong walang respeto sa relasyon ng iba... magiging "forever" ka kompetensiya mo sila. Kailangan mong intindihin ang kung ano meron ang mundong ito para sa'yo. Para mapag handaan mo

~ Being a "MAN" is a big factor to consider.

Lalaki ka, lalaki din ang ka relasyon mo. You don't impose on things that you know for yourself you're not capable of doing as well.

"there's always a possibility that a person can get attracted to another.

it's human nature.

it's not wrong.

but that's why you're in a commitment.

you DISCIPLINE yourself.

one may get attracted to numerous prospects and it's ok.

as long as you don't nurse the feeling and wont do something about it.

borderline between CHEATING and FAITHFULNESS.

recognize the reality that you already have the person that can give you MORE than what you get from the cheap thrills of attraction..."

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